“We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand.”-Randy Pausch
We often find ourselves where, no matter how hard we try, no matter what we do, we can’t change the circumstances of a situation. This can be most evident in sports or a job, as we are placed around a coach or boss who puts down your self-esteem versus cultivates your skills. What’s worse is that in most cases, leaving the situation isn’t an option - you are stuck and trapped.
Although this is pretty terrible, it’s all about the attitude. I know, how many times have you heard of that? Especially people are when referencing the “cup half full versus half empty” mantra. But in reality, being an optimist is the few ways you still remain in control. No one can force you to feel terrible, to feel less than what you are worth: it’s only when you give them permission to do so that it becomes so. Of course this sounds crazy at first, but you can’t change the way the “cards” are dealt, but you can control how you “play.” Are you going to play in such a way that you lose without putting a fight, or are you going to to play your heart out?
Okay, beyond my card game metaphor, there is always a seed of benefit that comes from negative situations. If you find yourself in a situation where life sucks because of someone else, check out this list:
What can I learn from this situation?
What will I lose if I resist the situation?
Am I stronger than the circumstances?
Will I let my circumstances dictate how I feel?
Hopefully, by answering these questions, you will set yourself up to emerge much stronger than you did before the situation arose. You are in control of how you feel; never let circumstances or small people take that power away from you. Play the hand the way that best serves you!